Living with Trixie
I have never really wanted to fully stop, and I think that’s the problem. There’s too much benefit in the anxiety-building- then-quelling ritual of it. Do I want healthy hair? As a woman, I’m supposed to, right?
Autism is a Life Without Grace
The requirements of grace fight every single one of my instincts. Sometimes my instincts look quite honestly insane. But they keep me healthy and happy, safe and alive.
How I Learned to Love Not Having Sex with My Husband
As we begin to define consent and its extremities, we are beginning to learn that the definition is not cut and dry. I say this not to defend a grey area of consent, but to argue the inability to give full sexual consent without first deconstructing embedded ideas about sex.
Weight Loss Cliches Suck
When I was first looking at myself, my weight, and where I was going, I thought those quotes were going to dig me out of the proverbial hole I dug for myself. But it was just a hamster wheel of chasing one quote to the next to keep myself going, and I wasn’t enjoying where I was headed.
Learning To Be Myself When My Icons Are Tedious
I was first called a lesbian in a cafeteria. I was 10 years old. I had just cut off all of my hair, because I didn’t want to look too much like a girl.
On Being A Bearded Woman
Nature contradicts the idea that women are hairless, dainty creatures and men are hairy, burly creatures, and we need to start contradicting those ideas more fiercely than ever.
The Cost Of Living
What would you pay to assure yourself that someone you love has avoided such potential death? My mom, of course, is adamant; we pay the money.
What if 2018 Was Your Startup?
What if, rather than compiling a list of things I wish I’d do – quit a bad habit, adopt a good one – I approached the new year as a startup? It's what I've filled my days with the past 25 years, after all—telling startups how to grow and evolve. What if I started giving myself some of that advice?
Crumbs
We are used to accepting crumbs, aren’t we? Not only do we accept them when it comes to self-care and relationships, we accept them at work, in school, in politics, and in culture at large. We negotiate our own selves on the regular just to get a crumb of what we want because that is how life works for women.
I Was Invited To Give A TED Talk — Then Asked To 'Cut Black Lives Matter' From It
I was frustrated that I had been invited to give a talk on an idea I deemed worth sharing, only to be told that it was not worth sharing anymore because something similar had been shared 2–3 times recently. As if that’s anywhere near enough.
The Case for Hairy Pits
I’m thirty-eight years old, but sometimes I wake up in the morning and I want to feel sixteen. On these mornings, I do two things: I put in all my earrings (8), and I start growing my armpit hair.
Please Don't Give Greta Gerwig an Oscar
When the lights came up, the first thing out of my (white girl) mouth, to my (white girl) friend was, “Jesus I’m tired of hearing about white girls.” I felt so bland after watching it.
The Wisdom of Anger
Anger is a powerful emotion and tool. It is our truth-teller, a superpower we all possess. It tells us that something isn’t right, and can be a powerful motivator to initiate change.
